Fostering older children

Eve wrote

I know it will sound obvious but if you get involved with fostering older children don't assume or even hope that you will be able to put right everything that has gone wrong in that childs life in a few days, weeks or months.

Before you tell yourself that you would never treat a foster child differently from your own children be sure, 100% sure, that you mean it. A foster Mum unexpectedly finds she is expecting a baby what happens? Does her own child get sent back to the Children's Home while she keeps the foster child??

When a child arrives it is really nice if you have some NEW books or toys or both of the appropriate age range not cast-offs or nothing at all (Yes the Lady Mayor strikes again.)